A Tale of Two Chickens
The shochet’s hands were slow and unsteady. The line moved forward at an agonizingly slow pace. The rain was still pounding, and I struggled to keep the chicken in one hand while keeping my umbrella steady in the other.
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Tags: atonement, chickens, customs, Judaism, kapparos, rituals, Yom Kippur
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Let me tell you a little about Yossele. No, no, not the famous one who could sing a mile and even the opera-goyim wanted him to perform for them.…
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Tags: Borough Park, community, conforming, education, friendship, growing up, Israel, off the derech, university, yeshiva
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Rievi and I sit on rocks near the shallow stream, the water cascading over tangles of rocks, branches, and fallen tree trunks, seeking its way, as water always does, to the lowest…
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Tags: children, community, divorce, family, fathers, hiking, New Square, relationships
Posted in Essays, Family, First Person, Off the Derech, Topics | 41 Comments »
If you are on Main St. in Flushing on a school day at 5 o’clock, you will see us. Running across the crowded Main street as fast as we can, our mid-calf…
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Tags: Christmas carols, conforming, girls, holidays, non-Jews
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I hate weddings. And vorts and lechaims too. I would have made some excuse, but the father is a friend of my husband’s and he’s some big macher in shul and so…
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Tags: conforming, darkness, happiness, lechaim, light, simcha, vort
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I take a deep breath. I mustn’t seem too excited. I run a comb through my sheitel again and check the car mirror. Pretty pearl earrings, neatly styled wig. Modest, attractive, reasonable.…
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Tags: family, halacha, kosher, rabbis, relationships, sholom bayis, Shulchan Aruch
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The Chanukah candles burn and sputter in the darkness, casting a warm glow around the room. They are so beautiful, slowly melting, slowly making rainbow puddles of wax. Right now, I am…
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Tags: chanuka, sex, sholom bayis
Posted in Essays, Family, First Person, Love & Sex | 115 Comments »
I needed a job, any job, anything to pay rent and buy a box of pasta and occasionally, chicken. They needed an office girl. Someone from Crown Heights. Why Crown Heights? Maybe they considered…
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Tags: offices, stereotyping, women
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One who sees his evil inclination getting the better of him should dress in black and go to a place where he isn’t known. That’s the famous passage in the Talmud that played in…
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Tags: sexuality, sin, Talmud
Posted in Essays, First Person, Love & Sex, Religion | 114 Comments »
I followed my mother around the side of the multi-family townhouse and almost slipped on the narrow, icy steps leading to the basement shop. Steadying myself, I entered a store that was almost certainly…
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Tags: lingerie, sexuality, shopping, women
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